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Do put your best foot forward on your dates!
Of course you should want to be on your  best behavior by being a lady who is
gracious, fun, interesting, interested, appreciative and happy. Be yourself, not
something you think he wants you to be. But be the best version of yourself you
can possibly be. He wants to get to know you and you wouldn t want any less
from him. If you have to work at being any of those things listed above, then you
need to practice on everyone until they re a natural part of who you are. Because,
without those  beautiful qualities, what takes their place could be ugly behavior
that you re unaware of.
Do dress well!
I m shocked at how many men tell me about the women they go out with who
don t put any effort into looking nice. They say the woman often wears
unflattering casual clothes that look like she s going out for a burger with a
girlfriend or shows up in a business suit that was obviously worn all day. Men
who interact with women in business suits in their work have trained themselves
to forget that they re women. When men go out on a date, they want to be with a
woman who obviously enjoys being a woman and enjoys being with a man.
So wear your most flattering colors and styles but not too sexy. It doesn t take that
much effort to go that extra mile. And it doesn t have to be a dress or skirt,
although that usually will make you feel more womanly, but make it flattering.
Show off your figure, or if you re not feeling that great about your figure, wear
the most flattering outfit that will bring out your best features. If he doesn t dress
nice for you, that s something to notice as well. If it happens on a second date, it s
a pretty good indication that that s his normal mode. If he s great, you can help
him spiff up his wardrobe later.
Chris dressed like a professor when I first met him. Boring and old-mannish.
Once we knew each other well enough, I asked if he d mind if I helped him pick
out a few things that would make him look younger and sexier. Notice those two
words: younger and sexier. What s he going to say? It works every time.
Do remember to put yourself in his shoes!
Pay attention to how he might be feeling, how he might be reading the situation,
how different men are than women  like the discussion above about men needing
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to communicate in a straight line and women preferring to meander. If you want
in-depth training on what makes men tick, why they do what they do, and what to
do to get more of what you want from them, you ll definitely want to consider
Flirting Made Easy.
Do allow your heart to reach out to his!
My job as The Heart Whisperer is to teach you how to spend more time in your
heart and less time in your head. If you do that, you ll focus more on who he is,
what I like to call the  gift that lies beneath the surface, and not so much on what
I call the  package (all the exterior things) that he brings with him. Sure you
want to like how he looks but if you focus on his heart you ll broaden what s
attractive.
Yes, you want him to have a solid secure job but if he doesn t make as much
income as you said you were looking for, but he s solid and secure, what really
matters is how loving and lovable he is. You cannot discover that by focusing on
the outer. You need to connect with his heart and hear the subtle whispers that he
reveals about himself.
If you re certain that he s not someone you wish to go out with again, that s okay
but still connect to his heart. Why? Because he s a fellow human being looking
for the same things you are and it s a perfect time to practice all your relationship
skills, including  being beautiful. When you re not attracted to a man, it takes all
the pressure off so practicing is easier.
Do be consistent!
Men get nervous when a woman is  squirrelly and unpredictable. Chris calls it
craziness  that s how strongly he reacts to it. Men need to trust what they see and
the person they re getting to know will be the same the next time& he needs to [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]